In the juice bar a while back I’d noticed a piece of paper taped to the tip jar with “Good Tippers Make Better Lovers” written on it. One of the staff in there had written it of course (and I think I know who too). A few in-house managerial opinions were that it was inappropriate for our customers to be faced with such a note. I disagreed. I thought we should let it go. Leave it. I liked it. Why? Because I’m pretty sure it’s generally true. If you think about it, would you want to be in bed with (or otherwise spend quality time with) someone who was generally a stingy tipper? Or someone who freely offers up more of what they have, who likes to see people smile, who thinks about other people and what would make them happy, who likes to know they’re going to make someone’s day a bit better? I say let the stingy tippers read that note, and maybe they’ll stop and think about it.
  
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I totes agree!
I worked in the juice bar for a bit and not only did it work as a ploy and conversation starter, but also, it is absolutely true! yay Sarma.
I used to work in a family-run greasy burger bar in the UK when I was just 13. The wage we received was so poor, I would count on the tips. I was a good waitress and was tipped well. But then one day, the manager decided that all tips should be put in a pot and we would share them out at the end of the day. Some of the waitresses were rude and lazy so I didn’t think that was fair! Now, I tip as much as I can but sometimes, I don’t tip for whatever reason, but I am not a stingy person. Some people just want to get their food and run – some people tip – but are stingy in the outside world. Tipping can be just for show. What comes from the heart is the best tip x
I like it too! I think it’s cute!
My husband is a good tipper..hahaha!
I saw that yesterday (I was buying a mallomar b/c you always write about them) and I thought it was funny. The Paradise Cafe’s tip box used to have a sign that said “Karma is a boomerang” and I have always liked that expression/idea too.
p.s. the mallomar was delicious!
so true!
Love It!!!
I was a bartender and I could spot a bad tipper and a good tipper from a mile away… the good tippers were polite to the women at the bar, they would buy their buddies a round, and they kept coming back to see me knowing full well I would never sleep with them LOL but if I had I bet you anything they were better than the stingy ones…
Great service deserves a great tip! But if the service is bad, well you know…
Being a good and generous person has very little to do with how much you tip! (whether or not it makes you a good lover is an entirely different question…). These are hard times we’re in and many of us are really struggling to live in this city and get by on what we have – I’ll always be polite and smile and I’ll always strive to practice compassion and kindness, but I can’t guarantee I’ll be leaving hefty and showy tips wherever I go. Living within your means (and limiting reliance on credit cards) is a virtue that some of us need to cultivate now more than ever. Be kind to each other!
RIGHT ON!!!
Agreed!! I’ll always be nice, but I’d be stupid to go into debt for tips. Cheers to rose (sorry sarma)– gotta live within our means!
Hi Sarma! For the record, I made that sign, even though it would have been totally in character for the person who you thought made it to do so
I’ve caught wind of a bit of controversy over it, so if anyone blames our man in the JB for it, you can redirect their flak my way! And, of course, I’m glad you like it.
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I strongly disagree with Rose and shula. If money is really that tight, don’t go out to eat or drink–cook at home and keep the alcohol spending to a minimum. Tips must be budgeted into the going-out budget–after all, if you got phenomenal service, would you want to be short on cash? Compassion and kindness are wonderful, but they won’t pay the rent of someone who gets paid less than minimum wage per hour and who leans heavily on tips for income.
My husband always replies: “and who is giving me a tip ?” Anyway, I prefer: “Don’t like change ? Leave it here” Keep up your thoroughly refreshing blogs !
People don’t tip in my country (Finland), nor in the neighbouring Scandinavia (Sweden, Norway), and the whole thought feels a little strange here. To me being friendly and helpful to the customers is the best part of the job, and I would feel kind of like… well, prostituting myself, if I’d put a price on those things. On the other hand I understand that there are different customs around the world, and that where the salaries are not so good, tips may be help one to make the ends meet.
Perhaps it’s just a coincident, but it’s interesting that these countries with no tipping also constantly rank the lowest in corruption according to surveys.
Cool snippet. My bf is a generous tipper – lucky me. But I never got into the habit of tipping – what does that say about me?! LOL. Well, it’s because I come from Singapore and live in Japan where tipping is just not part of life.
I LOVE IT! Glad you let it stay.
I”m a waitress too and its sooooo true!
Love.
how naive you are to think that it is so simple to say “these are hard times we’re in, some are struggling to live in the city.” what do you not understand about the simple fact that servers made well below the min. wage and NEED tips to earn min. wage?? and for clarissa’s husband who’s asking who tips him? well, his job does. he earns a livable wage where he doesn’t need to be tipped to pay his bills. a server needs his/her tips to pay the bills. if you can’t afford to tip, don’t got out. it’s pretty simple. thank you sarma for standing up for your wait staff who often have one of the most difficult and rewarding jobs!